- Source: Atlas/Maps/DLQ 10 MOC
- Keywords: Cards/permanent notes
- Relevant Notes:
- Module 1A
- Cards/Problem versus Mystery: When we reject ourselves, we treat ourselves as a problem. Accepting that we are mysteries is crucial for getting to truly know ourselves
- Cards/Absolute Certainty versus Wonder: When we reject ourselves, we resort to reductionism. A sense of wonder is needed in order to accept ourselves.
- Cards/Order and Chaos: Self-rejection can happen either through self-restriction (excessive order) or self-indulgence (excessive chaos).
- Cards/Perfectionism: Perfectionist tendencies make us reject ourselves.
- Cards/Desire: When we reject ourselves, making our desires value-adding is impossible.
- Module 1B
- Module 2
- Module 1A
- Our strongest enemy is self-rejection.
- According to Brene Brown in The Gifts of Imperfection, the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between “I am bad” and “I did something bad”.
- Guilt = “I did somethig bad.”
- Shame = “I am bad.”
- The moment you associate your mistake with your character…it becomes harder to address that. Changing identities is difficult.
- This is the 2nd effect of self-rejection: it’s harder to be accountable
- Remember: your Cards/Brokenness is an explanation, not an excuse
- If self-rejection is your default, “your life can be scarcely more than a long struggle for survival.”
- A.K.A. Cards/The Divided Life
- You cannot truly know yourself if your default step is to reject yourself.