Self-rejection

Last updated Aug 15, 2023

• Source: Atlas/Maps/DLQ 10 MOC
• Keywords: Cards/permanent notes
• Relevant Notes:
  • Module 1A
    • Cards/Problem versus Mystery: When we reject ourselves, we treat ourselves as a problem. Accepting that we are mysteries is crucial for getting to truly know ourselves
    • Cards/Absolute Certainty versus Wonder: When we reject ourselves, we resort to reductionism. A sense of wonder is needed in order to accept ourselves.
    • Cards/Order and Chaos: Self-rejection can happen either through self-restriction (excessive order) or self-indulgence (excessive chaos).
    • Cards/Perfectionism: Perfectionist tendencies make us reject ourselves.
    • Cards/Desire: When we reject ourselves, making our desires value-adding is impossible.
  • Module 1B
    • Cards/The First Principle and Foundation
    • Cards/Discernment:
    • Cards/Desolation:
    • Cards/Consolation:
    • Cards/Disordered attachments: what our brokenness can create; its manifestations
  • Module 2
    • Cards/Tangibles:
    • Cards/The Divided Life: a life dictated by personas created from tangibles.
    • Cards/Brokenness: self-rejection is a manifestation of what happens when we bitterly act on our brokenness
    • Cards/The False Self: what happens to us if we let our brokenness stay raw and unprocessed

• Our strongest enemy is self-rejection.
  • It’s why we fall into the temptations of the Cards/Tangibles.
    • 1st effect of self-rejection
  • We easily depend on these when we believe that there is no Cards/The True Self
    • We think that we are worthless and unlovable
    • “I tend to blame myself – not just for what I did, but for who I am.”
• According to Brene Brown in The Gifts of Imperfection, the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between “I am bad” and “I did something bad”.
  • Guilt = “I did somethig bad.”
  • Shame = “I am bad.”
    • The moment you associate your mistake with your character…it becomes harder to address that. Changing identities is difficult.
    • This is the 2nd effect of self-rejection: it’s harder to be accountable
      • Remember: your Cards/Brokenness is an explanation, not an excuse
• If self-rejection is your default, “your life can be scarcely more than a long struggle for survival.”
  • A.K.A. Cards/The Divided Life
  • You cannot truly know yourself if your default step is to reject yourself.